Overcoming depression; the magic answer

Written by Amie on August 27, 2011 – 12:43 am -

You will be depressed until you listen to your truth, become aware of your thoughts, and honor your needs

So, there is no “magic” fix when it comes to overcoming depression. The fact is, our world has taught us to repress and ignore how we really feel. And we have learned that we are bad if we have emotions and if we have needs. So, in other words, we have been taught to not be humans! We have learned to hate ourselves if we have needs. Most people don’t even acknowledge that they have needs! As I always say, if you ignore your truth, depression will hang around. You will be depressed until you listen to your truth, become aware of your thoughts, and honor your needs. If you want to overcome depression, stop looking for a quick fix. There is not one. Becoming human again is the starting point. Finding a classical homeopath can be a life saver. Learning meditation helps enormously. Becoming aware of the thoughts you tell yourself is huge! Questioning everything you believe is a must! Don’t believe everything you think!  Say what is true for you, even if you think others won’t like it! That is their problem, not yours! They have a journey too. Let them have it. You control your journey, that’s the only one. Love yourself…or at least begin loving yourself today. Nurture what is true for you.

Prescription medications can help temporarily

Our society has taught us to expect a “quick fix” for just about everything.  Just take a pill to make it go away. If I have learned one thing through the process of overcoming depression, it is this: there is no magic fix. You must face your truth and go through the process of looking inside yourself in order to get to the other side of depression. Prescription medications can help temporarily, or they may even get you to a point you feel is “good enough”. Good enough meaning you can get through your days and feel “sort of okay”. Each individual has their own journey and their own timing. Some people decide that being able to function each day is enough, and they continue this way until the day they die. Others want to feel more alive and more authentic and more connected to those around them.  Just functioning was not enough for me. I wanted more.

I tried anti-depressants.

They helped temporarily. When I say they helped, that means they gave me a small boost in serotonin and I was able to function. However, the down side was that I felt numb to my emotions. In other words, I didn’t feel alive or human. I didn’t like this. So, I started down the route of alternatives. I have tried acupuncture, homeopathy,therapy, exercise, meditation, cranio-sacral therapy, herbal remedies, reiki, massage, and the list goes on. All of them had benefit. I can honestly say that the most helpful things for me are meditation, homeopathy, therapy, massage, and exercise. But again, they all have benefits. Here is the bottom line that I have discovered. I could give 25 people the same exact tools, and their journeys would each look different. Because the truth is, we all must do our own healing work at our own pace. Each of us has a unique story to our life. The one thing we all have in common and the thing we must all do in order to overcome depression is that we must allow ourselves to feel our true emotions. If you acknowledge and honor your true emotions, you can heal your depression.


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How to nurture yourself to heal depression

Written by Amie on August 15, 2011 – 1:12 am -

The way to heal from depression is to honor your true voice

So many people are searching for ways to nurture themselves. So very sad that most people do not know how to do this. Most people are taught to think about everyone but themselves. Most people are taught to be concerned with what others think of them before being concerned about how they feel about themselves! People are conditioned to follow along with what “the authority” figures deem important. We have been conditioned to hide who we really are. The way to heal from depression is to honor your true voice. Let yourself be honest. Express how you really feel. Will this be easy after years of repressing and hiding your voice, your beliefs, your thoughts, your opinions, your truth? No, it just takes a lot of practice. Can you heal yourself from depression? Absolutely! But you have to be willing to show yourself. You have to practice facing your fear of being your true self. It won’t happen overnight, but if you keep practicing and you also practice compassion for yourself, you will transform your depression into self-love. You will soon be nurturing yourself because you listen to what your inner truth is telling you. Once you start listening to and acting on your truth, nurturing yourself is the result.

All of these things condition us to go against ourselves

Breaking free of the conditioning most people learn is the key to healing depression. Our world tells us we need to be perfect, be successful, be thin, be rich, be beautiful, be the same as everyone else, act happy, don’t feel emotion, hurry up, be nice, be who your parents want you to be, be who society wants you to be, don’t be angry, hide yourself, don’t trust yourself, listen to other people’s opinions of you, don’t listen to your inner voice, be afraid, listen to your fear, trust the authority even if it feels wrong to you….I could go on and on. None of these things are nurturing! All of these things condition us to go against ourselves. All of these things teach us to distrust our inner voice. These things are the reason why so many people are depressed! We have been conditioned to be afraid of showing the world our true inner beauty. Depression exists because our truth is locked in a box deep within. The harder we try to contain our truth, the angrier we feel. The more angry we feel, the harder we fight to try to contain our truth. The more we try to contain our truth, the more depressed we become. Depression gets deeper and deeper the longer the truth is hidden.

protect yourself by being “good”

It is not easy to say what you really want to say. This is especially true if you have been conditioned to believe you are somehow bad for stating your opinions or your needs. If, as a child, you were punished for needing anything, you learned to lock up your truth, and to hold in your thoughts and feelings. You learned that being “good” got you farther than expressing your truth did. It is fortunate that children have the built in ability to shut down parts of themselves in order to protect themselves. Emotions can be turned off, shut down. This happens for a reason. Humans are built to survive. This is a good thing. I learned to be thankful for my protective instincts. However, if you are an adult, you now have the ability to take care of yourself. You get to decide what is best for you, and who you will trust to be a part of your life. You no longer need these coping mechanisms that served you as a child. You are in charge of your life! This is great!

how to nurture yourself

So, I am back to the question of how to nurture yourself. I learned to nurture myself by listening to my inner voice, and then trying to follow it. I am still learning, but it is getting easier with practice. It takes so much practice! It is like learning a completely new skill. I am learning to have compassion for myself. I try to treat myself as I would treat a newborn baby or a very young child. I give myself a break when I revert back to my old habits. I allow myself time to sit and have a good cry. I honor the little girl in me who just wants to curl up and read a book. I listen to my body when it is telling me it needs to move. I get a massage to nurture my body. I feed my body foods that make it feel good. But, if I eat something that I know will make me feel bad afterward, I refrain from telling myself how bad I am. Instead, I say oops, maybe I won’t eat that next time. The key is to have compassion for yourself! Your inner judge has been abusive enough all of these years. Give yourself a break. Listen to what you tell yourself on a minute to minute basis. Write down what you say to yourself, and then apologize to your inner self. Become aware. The messages you are saying to yourself that are mean and judgmental are never true. It is all conditioning. Not of it is the truth. Remember that every single situation is neutral. It is the judgments and stories we tell ourselves that make them stressful.

You are love….you have the answers you need right inside you…..dig through the old lies and stories to re-discover the truth you were born with…..you are a beautiful soul…..you deserve to be here…..you deserve to feel joy every day……let go of the old stuff you have carried around for years…..question every single thing you tell yourself…..only keep it if you know it to be 100% true….that means you have to prove that it is true! Do something for yourself that feels good…right now….love…

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