How self love can grow when we are able to really see ourselves

Written by Amie on September 19, 2009 – 2:50 pm -

Look yourself  in the eyes

How many times have you really looked at yourself? I mean moving your face so that you are just an inch or two from the mirror? It sounds like it would be nothing to do this, but I was shocked at how I felt when I did it. I look in the mirror everyday, multiple times a day. However, I was not really seeing my aliveness. I decided that I wanted to see myself up close and directly in the eyes. This was hard for me to do. I tried to figure out why it felt so scary to do. I soon realized that when I wasn’t really “seeing” me, it was easier to be mean to myself. When I looked right into my eyes, I felt love for myself. Not sure if I am being really clear, but I will keep trying!

woman looking in mirror blur

See my aliveness

It is the same exercise when you are really listening to another person. You aren’t thinking of what you will say next, you are truly seeing them and hearing them. Do you notice that when you do this, you can see a certain light in their eyes? I think of this as aliveness. When I am truly seeing someone for who they are, I see the aliveness in their eyes. The same thing happened when I looked in the mirror to look for my own aliveness. I thought this would be an easy thing to do, but it isn’t. Try it, and see how you feel.

The eyes are a window into the soul

The more I practice this, the more I can feel my self love grow. I really think it has something to do with the fact that I am only seeing “me”. I am not looking at my body, critiquing it, I am not judging my hair or my face, I am just seeing “me”. I never really thought to give myself the same treatment that I give others when I am listening to them. I thought that when I look in the mirror, I see me.  I know that I am not my body, but still, when we look in the mirror, we expect to see ourselves. However, I now know from my own experience, that the real me, my true aliveness, is within my eyes. Now I really believe the quote that says something about how our eyes are a window into our soul.

This practice allows me to be kind to myself

By looking at the true me in my eyes, it is easier for me to be kind to myself. I am thinking of carrying a small mirror around at all times, so that I can check in with myself! Not really, but it is tempting, because this feels like a whole new level of communication with my true self. This practice also helps me to remind myself to just be ok with where I am right now in this moment. Until I did this exercise, I am really not sure if I ever saw my true self. I may have thought that I did, but I don’t think I did. When I look into my eyes, I see things that I didn’t know were there. When I looked deep into my eyes, I noticed that my eyes look similar to my brother’s. I never noticed that our eyes looked similar. It gave me a connected feeling to him, because I can no longer see him since he passed away. That made me feel really happy. I encourage you to try this exercise, it is not as easy as it sounds, but it gets easier and feels better and better the more you do it. It is one more way to practice being present with yourself.


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