I am you and you are me

Written by Amie on February 8, 2009 – 7:01 am -

Stand By Me
Music is one thing that can connect us.  I love this video because it helps us to see that we all are connected in more ways than one. The lyrics to the song in this video are so very true. We all help each other by standing by each other, and leaning on each other. We are connected to every living thing-all of the people across the world, every animal, every plant, even that tiny little bug that is crawling on the ground in another country that you can’t see right now. Pretty incredible!

Lately I have been thinking about how easy it is to feel isolated and lonely in our society. Most women that I talk to feel some degree of being lonely. I think it has been “the norm” to be independent, and self reliant in our society for too long. I think that some people feel weak or “needy” if they seek “too much” connection with one another. The attitude that “I don’t need anyone”, “I am fine by myself”, or “it is just easier if I do it myself” is prevalent. My personal experience has been to feel guilty asking other people for more of their time, or asking them to help me with something. I feel sad thinking that so many people are craving connection, but are too afraid to reach out for it.

We Need Each Other
I try to remind myself that part of being human means needing other people in order to feel whole. I believe that most of us are going through the motions of living, but  feeling like there is something missing. We try to fill the hole with things, or with “doing”, but what we are really needing is to  BE with other people, feeling the connectedness that is a basic need. We want to feel needed and loved by other people, and we want to give the same back to others.

What Happens to Me, Happens to You

studycircle-90x90Since we all have a part within us that connects us to every other living thing, what happens to one of us, happens to all of us. The quality of life in our world is only good for me if it is good for you. We can have a good life, and be happy, and even fulfilled. However, if there is suffering in the world, there is a part of each of us that can not be completely at peace. We are each one of the whole, so if even one of us is suffering, we all are suffering  on some deeper level.

The Significance of Meditation
I know that I personally, can’t end the suffering for every living thing,  but I do know that I can contribute to the well-being of the planet with meditation. Meditation increases the vibration of our planet. By increasing the number of people that meditate, we increase the vibration of the planet, which in turn, allows for increased  healing. The more people that heal, the less  suffering there is. This may sound over simplified. I know that there are a lot of other things that we can do to help each other. Meditation is a huge start that every single person can do, and it helps us as individuals, and also helps others at the same time!

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2 Comments to “I am you and you are me”

  1. admin Says:

    I would love to hear comments on this post. What do you do to feel connected to other people? Is it easy for you to reach out to others when you need them, or when you sense that they need you? I am trying to be more aware of my own needs for connection, and also when I sense that others may be needing help but are afraid to ask. I am working on letting go of the worry of “intruding”, and I am trying to focus on the need that we all have. Not easy when we have been programmed to stay in our own business.

  2. Ian Says:

    I am reminded of Stephen Covey’s “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”. The first three take you from Dependence (“you”) to Independence (“I”) and the next three take you to Interdependence (“we”), which is inline with how the universe really works.

    What stops people from asking for help is sometimes that they are too arrogant or just deluded to realise they need help (inflated ego), sometimes they feel too worthless to deserve help (deflated ego) and sometimes because they don’t believe anyone can help (despair/paranoia). The overriding emotion in Western society seems to be fear and that will naturally make people withdraw and retreat back to independence.

    I’ve found the best way to connect with others is to just try to listen. Start a conversation by showing some appreciation for something they have done and that will naturally lead to them talking about it. It feels good to hear people talking about things they love. Get to know people this way and you will discover those who are ready for you to open up to them. You may even find they open up to you about their troubles, whether previously they were too arrogant, felt too worthless or felt too hopeless!

    A word of caution: Make sure you are connecting for the right reasons! If you are coming from a Rescuer mentality then that’s not going to do you any good in the long run, as you are coming from a place of sadness rather than joy. (This web page really gave me a useful jolt when I read it: http://www.lynneforrest.com/html/the_faces_of_victim.html)

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