Let your emotions out, people!

Written by Amie on October 8, 2009 – 1:06 am -

The movie The Invention of Lying

I saw a movie tonight called The Invention Of  Lying. It was nothing like I thought it would be, and I am still trying to figure out exactly what I thought of it! I walked away scratching my head, but at the same time, it got my wheels spinning. The short of it was nobody knew how to lie. Until one day a man discovered lying. He was the only one who knew how to lie. Everybody believed every single thing  people said to them. Most of the people seemed depressed and lonely, which is another conversation in itself. One thing I thought about after the movie was how easy it is to believe everything that is said to us personally.  We are born not knowing how to lie, or to exaggerate the truth. Soon, we learn telling the truth doesn’t always get us a positive response, so lying begins. We start to believe what others tell us about ourselves, yet we learn to doubt the messages inside us, the ones telling us the truth about ourselves. The stories don’t match up, but yet we keep hearing the external messages so often we soon forget to listen to the internal connection we have.

Are you telling the truth?

The movie was a catalyst for pondering, no doubt. It also made me think about the people that are smiling saying everything is great, but really suffering in silence. There was a guy in the movie that was depressed and suicidal. Since he couldn’t lie, he just came right out and talked about it. This struck a chord with me because my brother did commit suicide. I knew that he was suffering, but had no idea how badly. This makes me wonder so many things. The biggest thing I wonder is why in the world are people taught that sharing their truth with others is somehow a bad thing?  We are taught that having any kind of emotions is really not OK. You do that in private, by yourself. Suffer in silence. Kids are sent to time out because they are showing emotion. Maybe in the form of a temper tantrum, but that is the only way they know how to express how frustrated they are! So from a young age, many people are taught that expressing their emotions is bad, and it also makes them weak. Expressing emotions is something that can be bothersome to others. I wonder how many people are walking around suffering? I can’t even imagine the amount.

liv shouting

Let your emotions out people!

So, I am here to say, “let your emotions out people!!” I say this with a smile! Seriously, what do we have to lose? Fight those voices that are telling you something is wrong with you, or the voices telling you how lazy you are or the voices asking, “how could you do that”? I say tell those voices to go jump in a lake without a life jacket. Corny? Sure, but you have to have a sense of humor when you talk to the voices in your head, they are not always rational!   As nice as it is to  get gifts, I don’t want anymore dysfunctional gifts, thank you very much. So, here is something to remember, if someone tries to give you a negative message or belief, you can say thanks, but no thanks, even if you say it just to yourself.

Messages you were born with

Here are some of the messages that I want to be coursing through my mind, and ones I put there myself when I need to feel nurtured. At this point, I am beyond caring how this sounds! I know I can’t be the only one out there who needs to hear nurturing beliefs. When I was part of a women’s healing circle, we each came up with things we needed to hear. So, hopefully this will be a gift to you that you can take in and let in to your belief system. The thoughts we were born with that got drowned out. I am saying these to you even though I can’t see you, but I hope that you can feel them. Let them sink in to your cells. Make up your own. Write down things you really need to hear, and say them out loud to yourself.

The truth

You are perfect exactly as you are. I hear you. I see you. I believe you. Who you are is what matters most. I care about you. I respect you. I love you for who you are. I support you. This is just a start……what do you need to hear from the voices inside your head?

Share

Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,
Posted in Connection, Depression | 1 Comment »

Open your heart

Written by Amie on September 16, 2009 – 1:37 am -

Being closed off to possibilities

I encounter people almost on a daily basis that have closed themselves off to possibilities other than what has become habit to them. I look at this from many angles. One angle is that it just isn’t the time yet for them to begin their healing process. Another angle is that they are very scared to try something new. I have written about fear before.What are we hiding from? Why do we get stuck in patterns of doing the same thing day after day if it makes us suffer? Afraid that others will view us as weak if they “find out” our truth. What if others find out that we are suffering and that we are miserable? Well, I have discovered that most people are relieved to hear that we are all human, and we all have ups and downs. Most people are  more apt to reveal their truth knowing that they share a common bond with us. But how do we get to the place of opening up with each other? We have had so many years to learn how to close ourselves off from each other so that it appears as though we have it all together.

Jump out of your box!

I have a lot of compassion, I really do. However, some days it is very difficult for me to go through the motions of listening to someone that I am in conversation with “keep their act going.” It is so hard for me not to just say it aloud, “reveal yourself! Open yourself! Let yourself be alive so that wonderful things can come to you. Jump out of your box, I know it is lonely in there!” I am not coming from a judgmental place,I’m really not. I am coming from a loving place in my heart that really wants to connect with every person that I meet. I want everyone to experience joy and peace in their lives. I want to share who I am with others. Most often, I have to come back to reality, and realize that we are not all on the same path. Not to say anyone is ahead of anyone else, just that all of our journeys do look different. I am used to getting strange looks from people when I don’t hold back who I am. Many are not used to this behavior. The bottom line is that we all want the same thing. We want to be happy, connected to others, have joy, good health, unconditional love, and peace in our hearts. How and when did we get off track? Maybe we never did, maybe humans are just evolving, and this is all part of the process.

black woman meditating (1)

The true journey begins when you open your heart

I think that our healing journey begins when we open our hearts to the possibility that good things will come to us. Healing will come to us, joy will come to us. If we all open our hearts to the possibility of unconditional self love, unconditional peace for all, what will happen? I tend to believe that all of the powerful energy that is focused on love, peace, and happiness will turn our world around when enough people are ready.  I also believe that keeping ourselves on a positive vibration will help elevate those who are suffering and staying on a negative vibration. The more people that focus on the positive, the more positive there will be in the world.

Take the risk to stay open

I have to tell myself everyday, to remain open to joy, peace, love, and acceptance. I remind myself that I can receive healing energy whenever I ask for it. I am amazed more and more every day how powerful we all are. We are just not taking the risk of staying open to it. We have to mentally make the effort to remind ourselves to stay open. As humans have evolved, we have learned that in order to protect ourselves, we must close up and keep everything bottled up inside. It is time to unlearn this pattern. We have the capability to do incredible things. We all have this capability. No matter what our circumstances are, no matter what we are living through, we do have the capacity for greatness. By greatness I do not mean that we must be famous, or do things that become part of the daily news. By greatness I mean reaching our potential of the incredible human beings that we are. I mean loving ourselves enough so that we can love others unconditionally. I mean showing the world our truth, reaching out in loving kindness to each person we meet, remaining non-judgmental, even if we have been judgmental our whole lives. We may have learned this pattern that protected us in some way, but now it is time to change it, “unlearn” it.

 

Share

Tags: , , , , , , , , ,
Posted in Connection, Depression, Healing & personal growth, Self-love | 1 Comment »
RSS