The beautiful contrast in the world right now

Written by Amie on September 17, 2016 – 3:01 pm -

What is happening?

Many are wondering what is happening to our world. The world as we know it has been slowing dying for a while now. Depending on who you listen to or what you read, there are many reasons for this. I am asking you to let go of the fear based negative energy out there, and instead, go within yourself. You have all of the answers and everything you need right inside you, every moment of every day. You just have to choose to listen. If you go inside and you hear negativity, or you hear scary scenarios, these are not your inner voice, these are conditioned beliefs/thoughts. These are the voices of the fear based dysfunctional beings in our midst right now. Remind yourself that this is not you. Let go of this kind of hurtful, unhelpful noise.

This world we live in goes against our true nature; Listen to what your soul wants

Many people are depressed and full of anxiety right now because they are listening and internalizing the negativity that is grasping and clawing, trying to stay relevant. Many are depressed because they are not listening to the voice within, the truth of who we really are as humans. We are love, we are peaceful, we are one with nature and with each other. This world we live in goes against our true nature. This is why we are so depressed. Our true nature has a very difficult time being seen and heard and nurtured in this world. However, I am here to remind you that there are things you can do to change this reality. Drop the negativity from your life. Drop the people bringing you negativity. Do things for YOU, do more of the things that bring you joy and peace, no matter what anyone else thinks or feels about your choices. Find your truth! Heal your inner wounds by nurturing your soul. Listen to what your soul wants. I promise it will tell you if you choose to listen.

There is something beautiful happening

With all of that being said, I want to talk about the contrast happening in the world right now. As bad as we are told things are, (and we can see for ourselves the terrible things happening) there is something beautiful happening too. You have to change your perspective, and you have to learn self-care, self-love, self nurturing, and learn to listen to your soul’s voice. Once you begin doing these things, you will begin to see the beauty of what is really going on here.

The old paradigm

We are living in a world of contrast. We have the people who are living in the old paradigm, and clinging to it desperately, such as those who think Trump is a good person who cares about all people.(this is not going to be a political turn here)  There are those showing their true colors of being racist, hateful, and prejudice against anyone and everyone who is seemingly not like them, etc. They hide behind their claim to be good christians. (this is also not going to be a religious turn) There are those who believe they deserve better and deserve more than others. There are those who repeat negative and hateful words being spouted from horrendously hateful, manipulative, racist, narcissistic people, without using their own intelligence and inner voice to challenge this dangerous behavior.

Old paradigm creates self-hate

These are people stuck in what I call the old paradigm. The old paradigm is what creates self-hate, hate for others, hate for everything that doesn’t support negativity and dysfunction. In other words, this old way is the cause of so much suffering and pain for all. For those who do not live this way, it still affects us. This is because we have to constantly protect ourselves from this energy that goes completely against what it means to be a sacred being. We have this old paradigm happening on a grand scale, and we also have it happening on a smaller scale, such as in individual homes, relationships, schools, definitely churches, etc. All of the smaller scale “old paradigm” ways of being contribute to the larger scale dysfunction. Those who are fighting and clinging to “the old ways”, are those choosing the negative fearful ways; the dying part of our world. So, this is one side of the coin, so to speak. People are finally becoming aware of what is really happening here. Thank you to phone cameras, social media and the internet for helping us to wake up!

The attributes that make us TRULY human

The other side of the coin (the new paradigm) is beauty, peace, joy, unity, equality, connection, self-love. All of the attributes that make us who we TRULY are! I believe the people who want a world of peace, of unity, of equality, are the people who know deep down that the world we see right now, is not who we truly are as humans.  The world is showing us a beautiful contrast right now. It is painful, and it is very difficult to live in at times, but if we can focus on the outcome, which is pure beauty and love, we will get there. It is happening right now, I promise you. And we get to choose which way we want to be in this world. I can tell you this, the old way is dying. So many are depressed because who we are as humans has been overshadowed by greed, hate, injustice, violence, etc.

It is time to listen to YOUR voice

It is time to choose who you are. It is time to dig deeper. It is time to listen to YOUR voice, not those telling you what to think, how to think, when to think. Stop listening to those who say they KNOW what is right. YOU know what is right for you. If you are feeling out of balance in any way, go inside yourself. Turn off the outside voices, distractions etc. If you want to know truth, go inside yourself, learn meditation, learn to listen and honor your voice.

If you are curious about this contrast happening, if you are curious as to why we are being fed lies and hate, dig deeper. Research,(but not using mainstream news, or anything affiliated with the US government, because these sources are all based on lies to keep us under control so that only a small percentage of people thrive). Go beyond the made up history you were taught in school. You will be shocked at what you find.

Are you thriving?

If you are not thriving, there is something out of balance. Dig into it. I promise you, there is a whole “new”world waiting for you. Turn off the stuff that got you here, whether it be people, tv,news,etc. Change it up. Try a different way and see how it feels. Let go of what you thought you knew. Let go of others’ beliefs and behaviors. Take care of YOU. It is way past time! Remember, it is very difficult to give to others (in a way that honestly makes your soul happy) if you haven’t first given to yourself.

What do you need?

Some questions to ask yourself today….What do I need? What is beautiful in my life in this moment? What is my soul trying to tell me? What can I do right now to nurture myself? When is the last time I was out in nature (really in nature, not a walk in the neighborhood with cars and black top) without distractions? What message has my soul been trying to tell me but I haven’t been listening? Who brings negativity to my life? What one small thing can I do differently today that will add beauty to my life?

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It is healthy to have wants and needs

Written by Amie on December 19, 2013 – 12:24 am -

being “picky” means I am alive and human and I have preferences!

I have written before about how we sometimes feel our needs are being dismissed. Since I am feeling this on a new level, I want to write about it in a deeper way. It hit me the other day that when a person is labeled “picky”, it is usually viewed as a negative trait. At least this is the way it has always felt to me. If someone called me picky, I felt a negative wave of energy or shame. (the same feeling as someone telling me I am too sensitive) As I began getting to know myself better, a clarity began to take shape. I began to feel annoyed rather than shame. Then I began to simply observe their words, knowing their words had more to do with their own feelings or wounds within themselves, than they did about me. I realized I am allowed to be “picky, AND being picky is a good thing! In fact, being picky means I am alive and human and I have preferences! This is normal!! It is healthy to express needs and preferences!!! When I was repressing my needs and preferences, I was not living!  I had no idea at the time!  All I knew was that if I didn’t express my needs, those around me seemed to be happier, so this made me feel safer. Meanwhile, I was sinking deeper and deeper into a black hole.  Being picky doesn’t mean I am a snob nor does it mean I am being unreasonable. Hearing the word “picky” the other day really opened up a new understanding inside me.

stop asking for “too much”

I quickly understood that the “definition” of  “picky” I was familiar with, was a very unhealthy definition. In my mind,  “picky” meant I was being a pain in the rear end, asking someone for far too much. To me, it meant that I thought I was more important than someone else, and that I was purposely trying to make someone else’s life more difficult. It meant that I actually thought I deserved to voice my opinion or preference about something! I quickly understood  that when a person living in a dysfunctional setting voices their needs, they are met with the message that tells them they are asking for too much or their needs are unreasonable . This message is meant to shut the person down so they will stop asking for “too much”.

I took back my power

This deep realization added a new perspective for me. A clear picture came to mind showing me how I learned to simply not have any needs! I associated having needs with being picky, asking for too much. When I started therapy years ago I didn’t even know I had needs! I knew I needed to eat, have clean clothes, a roof over my head etc, but other than that, I had no needs (that I was aware of). I truly did not allow myself to have needs other than the very basic needs. I shut off that part of me. The other day it really became clear as to how this pattern was set early in my life. As children we have the instinct to survive, and I wanted to survive! In order to survive in a dysfunctional setting, we must do whatever we can to cope and to survive. I learned that in order to survive, I had to become very low maintenance. The less I asked for and the less I needed, the easier things would be for me. This pattern stayed with me into adulthood. As an adult,  I began questioning everything about my life, and I began seeing how patterns such as this one, were no longer necessary. I took full responsibility for my life experiences, and I took back my power.  The minute I took responsibility for my life experiences, I was no longer a victim (this is probably another post about what exactly this means).

shaming my “pickiness”

Once I took responsibility, I began processing the patterns from childhood that were still affecting me as an adult, such as this pattern of repressing my needs, or shaming my “pickiness”. Once I began a deep introspection, I was able to see how I rarely asked anyone for help, I rarely showed that I was struggling, I rarely (probably never, actually) let on that I was miserable, I never showed  vulnerability. I went about my life telling myself I was “fine”. I am still amazed how deeply ingrained my belief was that I should not want or need anything. The way this manifested in my life was that I did a lot for other people, rarely allowing them to do anything for me. Also, when someone would ask me what I would like to do or what I prefer, my answer would almost always be, “I don’t care, whatever you want to do or whatever you prefer.” Inside myself I could *feel* the repercussions of my patented answers. I could feel anger and resentment starting to grow stronger, but it took awhile for me to really acknowledge and understand what was going on. It also took me awhile to *honor* my needs. I had to really begin to love myself so that I was able to *give* to myself. When I was living in self-hate, I turned the anger and resentment in on myself and blamed myself for being so “picky”. Now I clearly understand that being “picky” absolutely DOES NOT mean I am asking for too much and DOES NOT mean I am being unreasonable!

Getting to know the *real* me!

It has been quite a journey rediscovering my wants, my needs, and my preferences. I am learning new things about myself almost daily; music I had forgotten I loved, colors that make me feel happy that I learned to ignore, new foods I never tried because it was “easier” not to, activities I always wanted to try, new thoughts and beliefs about so many new things! It is like meeting a stranger some days! Getting to know the *real* me! I love when something really resonates in me and I cheer myself on to honor the need that arises. I listen to my needs, and I act on them! It feels so much better than just sitting back and letting life pass by. It feels so wonderful making room for all of my preferences! Go ahead…honor your needs, honor what is true for you. Take back your power and listen to that voice within that is guiding you! Trust, trust and trust again. It is hard sometimes, but it is so rewarding!

 

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