Feeling validated and really “seeing” each other

Written by Amie on November 1, 2011 – 2:39 am -

I really feel the part of them that is also a part of me

I find myself saying “I feel you” to many people lately. It just sort of started coming out. I thought I might get some strange looks or someone asking me what the heck I am talking about, but I haven’t gotten either one of those reactions. The reaction I have gotten is validation. The people I say this to feel validated. They know that I see them and I hear them. This is so incredibly important. When I am truly present with someone, they can *feel* it. There is no question as to whether or not they are being seen. How often I come across people who are looking me in the eyes, but have no idea what I said  to them. They may be too busy thinking about what they are going to say next. I try to be present with everyone I come into contact with. It feels so good deep inside when I really *connect* with a complete stranger. When I look them in the eyes and say thank you, it is the best feeling in the world! I haven’t told a complete stranger that I *feel* them, lol, because I don’t want to scare them off! When I say “I feel you” to someone, I mean I feel a soul connection with them; I really feel the part of them that is also a part of me.

 look them in the eyes and really see them

When we are able to really see each other, we are able to see that we are all mirrors for each other. When we see each other and validate each other, we are better able to see that we are all connected and we all have suffering and we all feel love. We are all the same, just in different physical forms with slightly different stories. Try “seeing” each person you come into contact with for the whole day. Each time you speak to someone, forget about what you are going to say and just look them in the eyes and really see them. Look deep into their eyes and connect with them. It feels so good!

I was in a very bad place for a very long time

I suffered very deeply from depression. I was in a very bad place for a very long time. Looking back now, I see that I did not feel seen or validated. I was feeling invisible a lot of the time. I felt as though I was just drifting through life, just getting by. Thankfully I had my kids to shower love on, so this helped me heal. I made sure to let them know they were both seen and heard. Through this process with them, I was able to see that I missed this part of my own childhood. It is another form of learning to ignore our authentic self. So many people are conditioned to turn off their truth. Therefore, they can not feel seen, heard, or validated. This creates depression because their truth is being repressed.

settle deep inside your heart

The more we stop to see others, the more we will be able to see ourselves. The more we validate someone else’s feelings, the more we can validate our own. The more we open our heart to others, the easier it is to open our heart to ourselves. Listen to your inner voice. It is there to show you the path to authenticity and love. Validate it by being gentle with yourself. Allow that gentleness to come in and settle deep inside your heart. You were born to feel love, it is there all the time. See it, hear it, nurture it, feel it, *know* it.



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