My new best friend

Written by Amie on August 17, 2009 – 11:47 pm -

My body is good to me

I am not really sure what changed, or what happened, but I decided to become best friends with my body again. I have been mad at it for quite some time, and I was being pretty mean to it on a regular basis. I would say mean things to it, and tell it how disappointed I am with it. Then, it’s like a miracle happened, and I woke up one morning with compassion for my body again. I suddenly realized that this body of mine has been pretty darn impressive, in addition to being really good to me. It carried twins for me, and it nourished 3 of us exclusively for over 2 years. It continued to nourish 3 of us for almost 5 years. I am now in awe of my body. I realize that it has helped me stay healthy for 44 years now. It doesn’t look exactly how I would like it to, but it is exactly how it is supposed to be right now.

I trust my body

I am trusting my body, and I am asking it on a regular basis now, what it needs. And, the best thing is, I am actually listening to it! It amazes me what my body is capable of. When we tune in to our body signals, our body will tell us exactly what it needs. We can choose to listen, or choose to ignore it. The cool thing is, our bodies give us so many chances to start over. Maybe next time we will listen, or maybe not. It is very patient most of the time. It is not a fair weathered friend. It hangs in there with us for the long haul. Some people abuse their body over and over, and still, it is there for them, waiting. At any given moment, it will allow us to try again.

What do you want  to eat?

Today I asked my body what it would like to eat. It really does give me an answer. It also tells me to go take the dog for a walk, time to move. It is incredible how many times I just ignored it! My brain was trying to override my body. Sometimes this will happen. In fact, it happens quite often when we are stressed out, depressed, or just feeling out of sorts. I have cussed at this body, like it is a person trying to make me do something! I would become angry at my body for trying to help me do something that is good for me.

It is Natural to Feel Good

I am ready to listen to my body now, and it feels so good! My on-going practice has been to have compassion for others, but that didn’t include my own body. Now my practice includes my own body too! I look at it with love and compassion. If I even start to think something mean about it, I correct myself, and I apologize to my body. I tell it thank you many times a day now. I talk to it, and tell it that I am going to listen to it, and that I trust it completely. Saying that I trust my body feels very powerful and makes me feel very connected to myself. I really feel as though this practice is helping me to love myself more and more. It feels like I have a new friend that loves me for who I am. I want to return that love. It is amazing the relief I feel since the tug-of-war ended. I am hoping it will stay this way. I completely trust my body to be exactly what it needs to be.

My body knows what I need at any given point

I trust that it knows what to do because it knows what I need it to be at any given time. The more I trust, the more I believe that our bodies are capable of so much more than we give them credit for. I can tell a huge difference in how my body looks to me when I am feeling love for it. When I am feeling grateful and loving towards my body, I look in the mirror and I love the way I look. When I was feeling very frustrated and disappointed in my body, I would look in the mirror and hate my body. So, I guess this is one more layer to add to my practice. It feels really good to have love for my body instead of hatred. I feel incredibly blessed to be living in this body. It feels like I am walking around with that dreamy lovestruck look in my eyes, and it feels really really good!

Byron Katie

Here is a video by Byron Katie called “I hate my body”. If you aren’t familiar with her work, you might want to check this out. She is amazing!

I would love to hear from you!

I always forget to add a note encouraging all of you out there to please comment! If you have a story that you would like to share, please do. I would love for this to be a place that you all feel safe to write about your own experiences and feelings. I do have the forum set up as well, if you would like to start a new thread on there. Sharing experiences is a wonderful way to connect and help each other.


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Nourishing my soul

Written by Amie on August 10, 2009 – 1:12 am -


A few years ago, I would have had a blank look on my face if someone would have asked me how I nourish my soul. Today, I can answer the question with a list of things that I do. Meditation is a part of my life now. Everyday, I start with meditation. Missing a daily meditation would feel like I left the house without clothes! It really has become an essential part of my life. In addition to this, I read something that inspires me everyday, even if it is a minute here, and five minutes there. There are various other things I do that nourish my soul. Music, some sort of body movement, inspiring audio books, writing, creating, learning and practicing  EFT (emotional freedom technique), mindfulness practice, and of course sharing time with my family.


Making it happen

It amazes me how long I went without any nourishment. No wonder I ended up depressed and feeling stuck! No nourishment means that energy is being sucked out of us all day long, every day. We get into the habit of  just going through the day, surviving. I have been there, I know what it is like. The only way to change this is to start small. Give yourself one minute to just sit and focus on your breath. Then, once you feel how good it feels to do this, move on to two minutes, and so on. Once you start nourishing yourself, it will become something that you can’t go without. Once I started giving myself the gift of nourishment, I realized how much I had been depriving myself. I was starving!

Listen to your heart

A voice inside us will tell us exactly what we need, once we remember what it is like to listen. So many of us have learned to turn the volume down so low that we can’t even hear it. Once we set the intention to give to ourselves, the volume slowly rises. Once you start down this path, the volume will progressively be turned up. It will stay turned up, and at some point, you won’t be able to touch the dial! Your soul really is trying to lead you to a place of joy and self love.

Fast paced world

When I first started listening to my inner voice, I had to adjust to this new path. At times, I felt a bit out of place in the “normal” scheme of things. At some point, I realized I really didn’t care. I decided that I wanted this new feeling of peace, no matter what anybody said to me about it. Even though the world around me is moving fast, I’m not moving fast. I am moving at the pace that feels right to my soul. I am happy about that! Even if things are chaotic around me, I am usually able to get back to a place of peace within a comfortable amount of time. As always, it is a practice. Years ago, I would go into a deep depression for months at a time.

Nourish Yourself!

I want to encourage everyone to nourish themselves. Give yourself the gift that your soul is asking for. Peace and quiet in your inner world. Meditate, pray, sing, dance, create, take time to just sit with yourself, whatever feels nourishing to you.  Be your own best friend. Be the encouraging mentor that you would love to have. You are a gift to the world, and you are the only one who can give yourself the gift of inner peace.


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