How do I get out of depression?

Written by Amie on July 2, 2011 – 8:46 pm -

How do I get out of depression

I have heard many people talk about “getting out of” depression. I have said it myself many times as well; “how do I get out of this depression?” When I was meditating this morning it came to me that we never “get out of ” depression; rather we “go back to” the truth we were born with. We learn to go back to ourselves, which makes the depression dissolve. When we come from the mindset that we are plagued or trapped or stuck in depression, it instantly puts us into the helpless, victim mode. The victim mode is when we tell ourselves we have no choice. When one feels as they have no choice about something, they feel hopeless. Hopelessness fuels depression. The story we tell ourselves then runs our life. “I am stuck feeling depressed, there is no way out of this”, “Depression runs in my family, I am stuck”…..the conditioned beliefs and thoughts go on and on. We believe them and they become true. We are stuck. But, we really are not! It is just a story we are telling ourselves, and it can be changed!

Uncover the layers of conditioning that have you trapped

This takes a shift in your perspective. We begin to come back to ourselves by learning how to uncover the layers of conditioning that have trapped us in depression. We must rediscover the truth that has been sitting right behind the depression this whole time. There is no goal to get to. Start right where you are in this moment. Begin by becoming aware of the thoughts and beliefs you tell yourself. What do you tell yourself about your depression? What thought just went through your head? What story did you just tell yourself about that thought? Do you believe it? Can you prove that it is true? Really? How does it feel in your body when you believe your thought?Just notice, don’t judge. Become aware by becoming an observer. Just watch your mind….what is it telling you? Is it labeling the thoughts for you? Is your mind saying something is good or bad, right or wrong? Do you believe that? Where did that belief come from? Does it even make any sense? A very important point to remember is that all situations are neutral until we add our own commentary or story to them. They are still neutral, but our stories have labeled them and then we believe them. This is just your mind (ego) trying to keep you in check. When you start questioning things, the mind gets nervous and works really hard to try to come back to what it knows. It helps to think of this as a separate entity. Eckhart Tolle calls this the pain body. All of the accumulated trauma, stories, beliefs, and thoughts in our bodies become a separate entity that gets triggered until we are able to look at them and see them for what they are.

Depression is layers of untruths

Depression is layers of untruths that are just covering up who you really are. Who you really are got pushed down each time into hiding time and time again. The conditioning we receive in childhood teaches us to hide how we really feel, who we really are, and what we really need. We receive the message that we are somehow not OK. We unconsciously respond to this by building layers inside ourselves in order to protect ourselves. The process of depression begins each time we hide a part of ourselves. We have all been taught to do this. The great news is that it can be undone! Healing depression means finding your real self that was buried. It is a process, yes.  In order to heal, you must peel away the untruths of who you are not. Your real self (your joyful happy self) is still inside you, it always has been and always will be. It takes diligence and courage to peel away the untrue stuff to get to your true self. It is exciting work!

Depression does not mean there is something wrong with you

Depression is a reminder to you. A reminder coming from that place of truth inside you. It is ¬†hoping and waiting for you to start peeling away the walls that have been built up to protect your heart. Your heart has been hurt by traumatic and stressful events in your life. Many of these being beliefs put upon you when you weren’t able to take care of yourself. Even as adults we believe things about ourselves that just aren’t true. Everybody has had events happen in their lives that force them to hide who they really are. Some people have had more than others. “Fixing” your depression really means chizeling away at these things blocking your truth. The truth is you are perfect and that you have everything you need inside you. Depression happens when you get away from believing you are meant to be here and that there is a purpose for your being here. Depression means losing the connection with the source of all life-the flow of love. Depression is the wall of wounds and hurts that cut you off from the infinite flow of love inside you. Start today by becoming aware of your thoughts and beliefs. Question everything!!!!! Do not believe your thoughts. Write down your thoughts and how your body feels when you think them. Awareness is the place to begin.

 

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Depression is dancing around the edges

Written by Amie on December 2, 2009 – 1:42 am -

Feeling stuck in my mind

The other day I did an extra meditation because I was feeling so out of sorts. I got a very strong message telling me I was feeling badly because I was acting as though I am alone in my suffering. I resisted and fought this idea for awhile, until I told myself to surrender, just let go. I think this is true for so many people. We get so stuck in our minds, that it feels as if we are all alone, and we are the only one suffering. Of course, I know this isn’t true, there are so many people suffering all over the world. But when I am in “the thick” of things, trying to process yet another layer of my emotions, I would swear I am all alone. It feels as though the weight of the world is on my shoulders, and *I* have to fix the whole world single-handedly. When I am in a tough place processing emotions, I have a difficult time even considering the fact that I am connected to all beings in the Universe.

When I am depressed, tune into other people’s positive vibration

I often wonder how people who go through horrendous events in their lives can make it through, and even be joyful and happy. I finally get it. I have believed for the last few years that all living beings are connected at a deep level. We all have access to loving messages. Yes, they do get blocked at one time or another, or sometimes for a whole lifetime. But, now I know for sure, on a very deep level within me, that we all have access to the same loving messages. During my meditation the other day, the message I received was loud and clear. If I am feeling depressed, I can tune into the positive vibrations that other beings are giving out. This may sound strange, sorry about that! Sometimes expressing thoughts can be tricky! What I mean is, if you are feeling depressed, get quiet and still, and ask for others to help you. Ask others who are feeling alive with joy that day to help you by sending you some positive loving thoughts. It works. I may sound a bit goofy, but I feel the need to write this anyway. We are all connected, and we are meant to help and love each other. When I meditate, I send out loving healing light to the universe and to whoever is in greatest need of it at the point in time. So, when I am feeling depressed or anxious, I know that others and also the universe is sending loving healing light out, so it helps me. Hope that makes sense!

Depression dancing around the edges trying to lure me in

It is easy for us to feel isolated in the world we are living in right now. It is common at times for me to feel as though my depression is just dancing around the edges trying to lure me into the dark hole. However, I know *for sure* that asking for healing love and light works. Do I still have to process my emotions and *feel* them. Yep. But, there is an overwhelming feeling that I have support while I do this. I know at a deep level that there is so much more to this physical being than I have been led to believe. The physical begs us to be disillusioned, it is so easy to think that this is all there is, this physical body. But, when I meditate, I *feel*, I *sense* that there is so much more. Love and connection for myself and for others is my goal. Is it always easy? We all know the answer to that. But, I now have a new mantra to add to my collection, and that is, “I am never alone, just reach out and ask.”

“I will be gentle with myself”. This song always makes me feel nurtured.

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