Overcoming depression; the magic answer

Written by Amie on August 27, 2011 – 12:43 am -

You will be depressed until you listen to your truth, become aware of your thoughts, and honor your needs

So, there is no “magic” fix when it comes to overcoming depression. The fact is, our world has taught us to repress and ignore how we really feel. And we have learned that we are bad if we have emotions and if we have needs. So, in other words, we have been taught to not be humans! We have learned to hate ourselves if we have needs. Most people don’t even acknowledge that they have needs! As I always say, if you ignore your truth, depression will hang around. You will be depressed until you listen to your truth, become aware of your thoughts, and honor your needs. If you want to overcome depression, stop looking for a quick fix. There is not one. Becoming human again is the starting point. Finding a classical homeopath can be a life saver. Learning meditation helps enormously. Becoming aware of the thoughts you tell yourself is huge! Questioning everything you believe is a must! Don’t believe everything you think!  Say what is true for you, even if you think others won’t like it! That is their problem, not yours! They have a journey too. Let them have it. You control your journey, that’s the only one. Love yourself…or at least begin loving yourself today. Nurture what is true for you.

Prescription medications can help temporarily

Our society has taught us to expect a “quick fix” for just about everything.  Just take a pill to make it go away. If I have learned one thing through the process of overcoming depression, it is this: there is no magic fix. You must face your truth and go through the process of looking inside yourself in order to get to the other side of depression. Prescription medications can help temporarily, or they may even get you to a point you feel is “good enough”. Good enough meaning you can get through your days and feel “sort of okay”. Each individual has their own journey and their own timing. Some people decide that being able to function each day is enough, and they continue this way until the day they die. Others want to feel more alive and more authentic and more connected to those around them.  Just functioning was not enough for me. I wanted more.

I tried anti-depressants.

They helped temporarily. When I say they helped, that means they gave me a small boost in serotonin and I was able to function. However, the down side was that I felt numb to my emotions. In other words, I didn’t feel alive or human. I didn’t like this. So, I started down the route of alternatives. I have tried acupuncture, homeopathy,therapy, exercise, meditation, cranio-sacral therapy, herbal remedies, reiki, massage, and the list goes on. All of them had benefit. I can honestly say that the most helpful things for me are meditation, homeopathy, therapy, massage, and exercise. But again, they all have benefits. Here is the bottom line that I have discovered. I could give 25 people the same exact tools, and their journeys would each look different. Because the truth is, we all must do our own healing work at our own pace. Each of us has a unique story to our life. The one thing we all have in common and the thing we must all do in order to overcome depression is that we must allow ourselves to feel our true emotions. If you acknowledge and honor your true emotions, you can heal your depression.


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Let your emotions out, people!

Written by Amie on October 8, 2009 – 1:06 am -

The movie The Invention of Lying

I saw a movie tonight called The Invention Of  Lying. It was nothing like I thought it would be, and I am still trying to figure out exactly what I thought of it! I walked away scratching my head, but at the same time, it got my wheels spinning. The short of it was nobody knew how to lie. Until one day a man discovered lying. He was the only one who knew how to lie. Everybody believed every single thing  people said to them. Most of the people seemed depressed and lonely, which is another conversation in itself. One thing I thought about after the movie was how easy it is to believe everything that is said to us personally.  We are born not knowing how to lie, or to exaggerate the truth. Soon, we learn telling the truth doesn’t always get us a positive response, so lying begins. We start to believe what others tell us about ourselves, yet we learn to doubt the messages inside us, the ones telling us the truth about ourselves. The stories don’t match up, but yet we keep hearing the external messages so often we soon forget to listen to the internal connection we have.

Are you telling the truth?

The movie was a catalyst for pondering, no doubt. It also made me think about the people that are smiling saying everything is great, but really suffering in silence. There was a guy in the movie that was depressed and suicidal. Since he couldn’t lie, he just came right out and talked about it. This struck a chord with me because my brother did commit suicide. I knew that he was suffering, but had no idea how badly. This makes me wonder so many things. The biggest thing I wonder is why in the world are people taught that sharing their truth with others is somehow a bad thing?  We are taught that having any kind of emotions is really not OK. You do that in private, by yourself. Suffer in silence. Kids are sent to time out because they are showing emotion. Maybe in the form of a temper tantrum, but that is the only way they know how to express how frustrated they are! So from a young age, many people are taught that expressing their emotions is bad, and it also makes them weak. Expressing emotions is something that can be bothersome to others. I wonder how many people are walking around suffering? I can’t even imagine the amount.

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Let your emotions out people!

So, I am here to say, “let your emotions out people!!” I say this with a smile! Seriously, what do we have to lose? Fight those voices that are telling you something is wrong with you, or the voices telling you how lazy you are or the voices asking, “how could you do that”? I say tell those voices to go jump in a lake without a life jacket. Corny? Sure, but you have to have a sense of humor when you talk to the voices in your head, they are not always rational!   As nice as it is to  get gifts, I don’t want anymore dysfunctional gifts, thank you very much. So, here is something to remember, if someone tries to give you a negative message or belief, you can say thanks, but no thanks, even if you say it just to yourself.

Messages you were born with

Here are some of the messages that I want to be coursing through my mind, and ones I put there myself when I need to feel nurtured. At this point, I am beyond caring how this sounds! I know I can’t be the only one out there who needs to hear nurturing beliefs. When I was part of a women’s healing circle, we each came up with things we needed to hear. So, hopefully this will be a gift to you that you can take in and let in to your belief system. The thoughts we were born with that got drowned out. I am saying these to you even though I can’t see you, but I hope that you can feel them. Let them sink in to your cells. Make up your own. Write down things you really need to hear, and say them out loud to yourself.

The truth

You are perfect exactly as you are. I hear you. I see you. I believe you. Who you are is what matters most. I care about you. I respect you. I love you for who you are. I support you. This is just a start……what do you need to hear from the voices inside your head?

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