Let your emotions out, people!

Written by Amie on October 8, 2009 – 1:06 am -

The movie The Invention of Lying

I saw a movie tonight called The Invention Of  Lying. It was nothing like I thought it would be, and I am still trying to figure out exactly what I thought of it! I walked away scratching my head, but at the same time, it got my wheels spinning. The short of it was nobody knew how to lie. Until one day a man discovered lying. He was the only one who knew how to lie. Everybody believed every single thing  people said to them. Most of the people seemed depressed and lonely, which is another conversation in itself. One thing I thought about after the movie was how easy it is to believe everything that is said to us personally.  We are born not knowing how to lie, or to exaggerate the truth. Soon, we learn telling the truth doesn’t always get us a positive response, so lying begins. We start to believe what others tell us about ourselves, yet we learn to doubt the messages inside us, the ones telling us the truth about ourselves. The stories don’t match up, but yet we keep hearing the external messages so often we soon forget to listen to the internal connection we have.

Are you telling the truth?

The movie was a catalyst for pondering, no doubt. It also made me think about the people that are smiling saying everything is great, but really suffering in silence. There was a guy in the movie that was depressed and suicidal. Since he couldn’t lie, he just came right out and talked about it. This struck a chord with me because my brother did commit suicide. I knew that he was suffering, but had no idea how badly. This makes me wonder so many things. The biggest thing I wonder is why in the world are people taught that sharing their truth with others is somehow a bad thing?  We are taught that having any kind of emotions is really not OK. You do that in private, by yourself. Suffer in silence. Kids are sent to time out because they are showing emotion. Maybe in the form of a temper tantrum, but that is the only way they know how to express how frustrated they are! So from a young age, many people are taught that expressing their emotions is bad, and it also makes them weak. Expressing emotions is something that can be bothersome to others. I wonder how many people are walking around suffering? I can’t even imagine the amount.

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Let your emotions out people!

So, I am here to say, “let your emotions out people!!” I say this with a smile! Seriously, what do we have to lose? Fight those voices that are telling you something is wrong with you, or the voices telling you how lazy you are or the voices asking, “how could you do that”? I say tell those voices to go jump in a lake without a life jacket. Corny? Sure, but you have to have a sense of humor when you talk to the voices in your head, they are not always rational!   As nice as it is to  get gifts, I don’t want anymore dysfunctional gifts, thank you very much. So, here is something to remember, if someone tries to give you a negative message or belief, you can say thanks, but no thanks, even if you say it just to yourself.

Messages you were born with

Here are some of the messages that I want to be coursing through my mind, and ones I put there myself when I need to feel nurtured. At this point, I am beyond caring how this sounds! I know I can’t be the only one out there who needs to hear nurturing beliefs. When I was part of a women’s healing circle, we each came up with things we needed to hear. So, hopefully this will be a gift to you that you can take in and let in to your belief system. The thoughts we were born with that got drowned out. I am saying these to you even though I can’t see you, but I hope that you can feel them. Let them sink in to your cells. Make up your own. Write down things you really need to hear, and say them out loud to yourself.

The truth

You are perfect exactly as you are. I hear you. I see you. I believe you. Who you are is what matters most. I care about you. I respect you. I love you for who you are. I support you. This is just a start……what do you need to hear from the voices inside your head?

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Someone else’s story

Written by Amie on September 13, 2009 – 12:12 am -

Everything is just fine

I’m not really sure what got me thinking about this again today, but I did, and here I am writing about it. When someone who doesn’t know me looks at me, they really have no idea what my “story” is.  When I look at someone that I don’t know, I have no idea what their story is. So many people keep themselves hidden. They want to appear as though things are just fine. I do this as well sometimes. If I feel safe telling someone my story, and they are interested, I will tell them about myself. It is always pretty obvious whether or not someone wants to hear about who you truly are. Sometimes it is easier to just let someone form their own story about me.

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Go ahead and reach out

I guess what I am getting at is that there are so many people walking around in pain, and they are afraid to reach out to someone. It is so hard for us to be vulnerable enough to reach out for help. Yet, when we do, most people are very compassionate and would do whatever they can to help. What keeps us from showing our true selves? I know the answer, years and years of being conditioned with beliefs that it is weak to show our vulnerable side. Years and years of conditioning that tells us that we should be able to do it all on our own. Years and years of believing that it is asking too much of someone if we reach out and tell someone that we need them. It really just amazes me on an almost daily basis how we are so afraid to reach out to each other.

New Moms

I think of all of the struggling Moms with new babies who think they should be able to do it all on their own. They think they are weak if they say they are stressed and tired. I think of people who are living alone and are depressed and are afraid to “bother” anyone with their problems. I have been there many times myself. I have been afraid to ask for help when I feel overwhelmed. Most of the time now, I am able to reach out. It is not easy, don’t get me wrong, and I am still practicing how to do it, but at least I am able to consider the option of asking.  I had to unlearn my old ways, and learn new ways. It did not come naturally. I know that when someone asks me for help, I feel so good, even if it is something I am not able to help with. I want to help other people, it feels good.

We are all waking up

I want to also talk about the positive side to these ponderings. I do believe 100% that so many people are starting to wake up from the craziness that has been our world for quite some time. I can feel a shift of energy and an openness with people. I really believe that people are wanting more connection, more love, more vulnerability. I think we are all starting to sense that there is so much more. I’m sure many people have been seeing this much longer than I have, so they have been patient waiting for others to wake up. So, where am I going with this? Two things I guess. One is that I want to encourage people who are struggling to reach out and ask for help, even if it feels really difficult. Remember that you never know someone else’s story, and that person you just reached out to may have been in a similar place themselves. They may have some helpful information for you. They may be struggling as well, and would love to have someone who knows what they are going through to commiserate with, or to try new things that may make you both feel better. The second consideration I want to mention is that we all try to connect with each person we meet. Look them in the eye and send them loving thoughts of, “I don’t know your story, but I accept you just as you are.” Even if it a person that is not particularly kind. We can still send them a loving message, but then decide to send the message from afar next time! I want to encourage each one of us to be just a tad more vulnerable. Show the world who you really are, the loving person who wants love and connection just like everyone else.

Are you hiding a painful story?

The next time you meet someone new and can’t quite figure out who they are, just remember that they might have a painful story of their own that they are trying to hide. Send them some compassion and wish them well. Share a smile with them, a kind hello, share a piece of your story that might give them a link to who you really are. We are all connected in a much bigger way than we can ever imagine. The person that you are extending kindness to is also a part of you. The kindness that you extend to them is also kindness that you extend to yourself. You can heal parts of yourself by extending a part of yourself to others. When I look at another person, I remind myself that we are all in the same boat together. I can never know what is truly happening with them unless they choose to connect with me. So I connect with them in a non verbal way, just by sending them love and acceptance. I figure that each time I do this, I am spreading love to the world, including myself!

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