Taking back your power from depression

Written by Amie on February 6, 2012 – 1:20 am -

You are love….you have the answers you need right inside you…..dig through the old lies and stories to rediscover the truth you were born with…..you are a beautiful soul…..you deserve to be here…..you deserve to feel joy every day……let go of the old stuff you have carried around for years…..question every single thing you tell yourself…..only keep it if you know it to be 100% true….that means you have to prove that it is true! Do something for yourself that feels good…right now….tell yourself you are falling in love with…..YOU! 🙂

You have power!

Okay, here we go…….I have been having a bit of trouble writing lately because there is a tiny part of me that does not want to own my true power. I am right on the edge of stepping 100% into who I truly am. What am I afraid of? I am a tiny bit afraid of being seen as a “know it all”. Honestly, that is my truth right now. Up until a few years ago, I played small. I played the game of pretend….pretending I didn’t have power inside me….pretending I didn’t know how powerful I really am. When I say powerful, I do not mean this in an ego-based way….I am talking about the power every single one of us has because we are all a part of the same source. The only problem is, so many of us either do not recognize it, do not own it, or choose to keep it hidden. This is sad. Instead, most people are taught to play small; to go along with the crowd so as not to “make waves”. That was me. Until now.

threshold of fear

Here I go….I am stepping over that tiny threshold of fear, and letting go of the untrue thought that people will think I am a know it all. Even if someone does think that, it really isn’t about me, it is about them. I want to share with you what I *know* for certain. When I was severely depressed, this message most likely would not have made a difference to me, so I understand if this does not resonate with you *right now*. This is what I have come to know without an ounce of doubt and I want to share it with each and every person I come into contact with. Maybe you already know this and feel this deep in your bones. I pray that you do!!! I began the journey of learning this message after my kids were born. However, I did not *feel* it so deeply until the last year or so. If I could explain to you how I felt at the beginning of this journey, and how I feel now….you would be utterly amazed beyond words. I know I am. I came back to the truth that I know we are all born with.

So, this is what I know. These words are not mine. I just happen to be the conduit for them.

blaming others 

Depression is your soul’s way of trying to wake you up to remember your truth. I know I have said this before, but I must keep repeating it. Depression is your soul’s way of screaming (gently!) to you to please come back to realize you are magnificent. One reason you are feeling so badly about yourself is because you bought into (innocently)the nonsense that people who were supposed to love and protect you, either told you, or showed you, via their actions. This is not the fault of anyone. They were taught the same lessons they passed on to you, and for whatever reason, it was not their time to wake up and realize how dysfunctional their behaviors were. Many people have very sensitive souls. If this is the case for you, it was even more difficult for you to be with dysfunctional people in your life. Your soul was screaming out your truth, and this truth was shut down by dysfunctional people and/or a dysfunctional society. You learned to hide. If we stay hidden for too long, we have no choice but to shut down the truth that we were born with.

learning to take back your power

I am not saying all of this so you can blame your depression on someone else. That is not my message here. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. Your life experiences made you the perfect soul you are today. I am telling you this to encourage you to take back your power. When you allow yourself to see and feel the pain and hurt you have endured in your life, you automatically take back the power that was taken from you. Each time you question something you were taught to believe, you gain back power.  The more you question, the more you gain your power back. I am telling you this so that you can understand why you may be hating yourself right now. Your soul is weighted down with self-hate messages that are just plain lies. When you believe the self-hate, you can’t function in your truth. You are fighting against self-hate. The way to get out of depression is to start loving yourself. And, please believe me, I understand this does not always happen overnight. I say “not always”, because I want to leave the possibility open for you to believe it actually *can* happen overnight. Self-love begins when you start listening to and questioning the voices and messages in your head. Replace the lies with the truth. The truth is, every single one of us is here to give and receive unconditional love.

we are all mirrors for each other

We are here to see the beauty in each and every living being we come into contact with. Each being we come into contact with is a mirror for us. Each being has a part of us in them. We are all a part of each other. What I dislike in another person, I also dislike in myself. What I love in another, I love in myself. What irritates me in another, also irritates me in myself. This is a difficult pill to swallow sometimes, but it is the truth. Once we can see ourselves in every single living person/animal/flower etc., we will know unconditional love and we are free. Start by looking at every thought that goes through your mind….every reaction you have……every belief you have…..every choice you make…..and then question it…..while always being as gentle with yourself as you would be with a young baby. Nurture yourself by allowing your truth to surface without judging it. Replace the self-hate with a loving thought, even if it doesn’t feel true right now.

 

You are love….you have the answers you need right inside you…..dig through the old lies and stories to re-discover the truth you were born with…..you are a beautiful soul…..you deserve to be here…..you deserve to feel joy every day……let go of the old stuff you have carried around for years…..question every single thing you tell yourself…..only keep it if you know it to be 100% true….that means you have to prove that it is true! Do something for yourself that feels good…right now….tell yourself you are falling in love with…..YOU! 🙂

 

 

 

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Feeling validated and really “seeing” each other

Written by Amie on November 1, 2011 – 2:39 am -

I really feel the part of them that is also a part of me

I find myself saying “I feel you” to many people lately. It just sort of started coming out. I thought I might get some strange looks or someone asking me what the heck I am talking about, but I haven’t gotten either one of those reactions. The reaction I have gotten is validation. The people I say this to feel validated. They know that I see them and I hear them. This is so incredibly important. When I am truly present with someone, they can *feel* it. There is no question as to whether or not they are being seen. How often I come across people who are looking me in the eyes, but have no idea what I said  to them. They may be too busy thinking about what they are going to say next. I try to be present with everyone I come into contact with. It feels so good deep inside when I really *connect* with a complete stranger. When I look them in the eyes and say thank you, it is the best feeling in the world! I haven’t told a complete stranger that I *feel* them, lol, because I don’t want to scare them off! When I say “I feel you” to someone, I mean I feel a soul connection with them; I really feel the part of them that is also a part of me.

 look them in the eyes and really see them

When we are able to really see each other, we are able to see that we are all mirrors for each other. When we see each other and validate each other, we are better able to see that we are all connected and we all have suffering and we all feel love. We are all the same, just in different physical forms with slightly different stories. Try “seeing” each person you come into contact with for the whole day. Each time you speak to someone, forget about what you are going to say and just look them in the eyes and really see them. Look deep into their eyes and connect with them. It feels so good!

I was in a very bad place for a very long time

I suffered very deeply from depression. I was in a very bad place for a very long time. Looking back now, I see that I did not feel seen or validated. I was feeling invisible a lot of the time. I felt as though I was just drifting through life, just getting by. Thankfully I had my kids to shower love on, so this helped me heal. I made sure to let them know they were both seen and heard. Through this process with them, I was able to see that I missed this part of my own childhood. It is another form of learning to ignore our authentic self. So many people are conditioned to turn off their truth. Therefore, they can not feel seen, heard, or validated. This creates depression because their truth is being repressed.

settle deep inside your heart

The more we stop to see others, the more we will be able to see ourselves. The more we validate someone else’s feelings, the more we can validate our own. The more we open our heart to others, the easier it is to open our heart to ourselves. Listen to your inner voice. It is there to show you the path to authenticity and love. Validate it by being gentle with yourself. Allow that gentleness to come in and settle deep inside your heart. You were born to feel love, it is there all the time. See it, hear it, nurture it, feel it, *know* it.

 

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