How do I get out of depression?

Written by Amie on July 2, 2011 – 8:46 pm -

How do I get out of depression

I have heard many people talk about “getting out of” depression. I have said it myself many times as well; “how do I get out of this depression?” When I was meditating this morning it came to me that we never “get out of ” depression; rather we “go back to” the truth we were born with. We learn to go back to ourselves, which makes the depression dissolve. When we come from the mindset that we are plagued or trapped or stuck in depression, it instantly puts us into the helpless, victim mode. The victim mode is when we tell ourselves we have no choice. When one feels as they have no choice about something, they feel hopeless. Hopelessness fuels depression. The story we tell ourselves then runs our life. “I am stuck feeling depressed, there is no way out of this”, “Depression runs in my family, I am stuck”…..the conditioned beliefs and thoughts go on and on. We believe them and they become true. We are stuck. But, we really are not! It is just a story we are telling ourselves, and it can be changed!

Uncover the layers of conditioning that have you trapped

This takes a shift in your perspective. We begin to come back to ourselves by learning how to uncover the layers of conditioning that have trapped us in depression. We must rediscover the truth that has been sitting right behind the depression this whole time. There is no goal to get to. Start right where you are in this moment. Begin by becoming aware of the thoughts and beliefs you tell yourself. What do you tell yourself about your depression? What thought just went through your head? What story did you just tell yourself about that thought? Do you believe it? Can you prove that it is true? Really? How does it feel in your body when you believe your thought?Just notice, don’t judge. Become aware by becoming an observer. Just watch your mind….what is it telling you? Is it labeling the thoughts for you? Is your mind saying something is good or bad, right or wrong? Do you believe that? Where did that belief come from? Does it even make any sense? A very important point to remember is that all situations are neutral until we add our own commentary or story to them. They are still neutral, but our stories have labeled them and then we believe them. This is just your mind (ego) trying to keep you in check. When you start questioning things, the mind gets nervous and works really hard to try to come back to what it knows. It helps to think of this as a separate entity. Eckhart Tolle calls this the pain body. All of the accumulated trauma, stories, beliefs, and thoughts in our bodies become a separate entity that gets triggered until we are able to look at them and see them for what they are.

Depression is layers of untruths

Depression is layers of untruths that are just covering up who you really are. Who you really are got pushed down each time into hiding time and time again. The conditioning we receive in childhood teaches us to hide how we really feel, who we really are, and what we really need. We receive the message that we are somehow not OK. We unconsciously respond to this by building layers inside ourselves in order to protect ourselves. The process of depression begins each time we hide a part of ourselves. We have all been taught to do this. The great news is that it can be undone! Healing depression means finding your real self that was buried. It is a process, yes.  In order to heal, you must peel away the untruths of who you are not. Your real self (your joyful happy self) is still inside you, it always has been and always will be. It takes diligence and courage to peel away the untrue stuff to get to your true self. It is exciting work!

Depression does not mean there is something wrong with you

Depression is a reminder to you. A reminder coming from that place of truth inside you. It is  hoping and waiting for you to start peeling away the walls that have been built up to protect your heart. Your heart has been hurt by traumatic and stressful events in your life. Many of these being beliefs put upon you when you weren’t able to take care of yourself. Even as adults we believe things about ourselves that just aren’t true. Everybody has had events happen in their lives that force them to hide who they really are. Some people have had more than others. “Fixing” your depression really means chizeling away at these things blocking your truth. The truth is you are perfect and that you have everything you need inside you. Depression happens when you get away from believing you are meant to be here and that there is a purpose for your being here. Depression means losing the connection with the source of all life-the flow of love. Depression is the wall of wounds and hurts that cut you off from the infinite flow of love inside you. Start today by becoming aware of your thoughts and beliefs. Question everything!!!!! Do not believe your thoughts. Write down your thoughts and how your body feels when you think them. Awareness is the place to begin.



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Rediscovering my inner voice

Written by Amie on June 11, 2009 – 2:33 am -

Just 2 more bites

Imagine sitting down for dinner with a friend, a spouse, a partner, someone that you love and trust. Now imagine that you decide you are not hungry anymore, or that you would like to get up and move around before eating. Imagine if the person you are with holds onto you and will not let you go until you take 2 more bites of the food on your plate. They tell you no, you can’t get up to move around until after you finish eating, even though your body is telling you it really needs to move around right now.  For many children, this begins the path of learning to ignore their inner voice. They learn to shut off their truth, or to judge themselves  as “bad” for thinking something other than what they were taught is “right.” Many people have  been taught that someone else will tell them what to do, what to feel, and what they need. The inner voice gets turned way down so that it can’t be heard.

Am I hungry?

Many children are not even given the opportunity to decide when they should eat or sleep, the most basic of needs. They have been told since birth when they should eat, and when it is time for them to be tired. When did we lose touch with each other so much, that we are willing to listen to an “expert” over listening to our baby, or to our own inner guidance?  I witnessed a mother refusing to feed her baby because it hadn’t been 3 hours! The baby was clearly hungry, screaming, and the mother would not feed him. The mother claimed to be teaching the baby that he needs to be on a schedule. What he learned was that even if I scream, my needs will not be met. He learns to stop screaming, and the mother thinks she is successful with her lesson. In reality, the baby is on the path to losing himself. We have learned not to trust our own instincts. When we do decide to listen, it somehow feels wrong to us because we have never experienced what it feels like to honor our own voice. When we allow ourselves to listen again, we discover that inner guidance that was buried.

The good news!

The good news to all of this is that we can decide to start listening to our truth at any time we choose. It is waiting for us. Yes, it takes practice at first, but the more you listen to your heart and honor your truth, the stronger you get. Once I became aware that I wasn’t listening to what was true for me, a whole new world opened up. I honestly wasn’t aware that I had needs other than the basic ones. I was accustomed to paying more attention to what others thought of me than to pay attention to what I needed. Learning to listen to our inner voice is much easier to learn if we start young.  If you have children in your life, give them the gift of loving and honoring their voice that is there to help them discover their truth. As always, please be gentle with yourself while you are honoring yourself and rediscovering your own inner voice.



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