The beautiful contrast in the world right now

Written by Amie on September 17, 2016 – 3:01 pm -

What is happening?

Many are wondering what is happening to our world. The world as we know it has been slowing dying for a while now. Depending on who you listen to or what you read, there are many reasons for this. I am asking you to let go of the fear based negative energy out there, and instead, go within yourself. You have all of the answers and everything you need right inside you, every moment of every day. You just have to choose to listen. If you go inside and you hear negativity, or you hear scary scenarios, these are not your inner voice, these are conditioned beliefs/thoughts. These are the voices of the fear based dysfunctional beings in our midst right now. Remind yourself that this is not you. Let go of this kind of hurtful, unhelpful noise.

This world we live in goes against our true nature; Listen to what your soul wants

Many people are depressed and full of anxiety right now because they are listening and internalizing the negativity that is grasping and clawing, trying to stay relevant. Many are depressed because they are not listening to the voice within, the truth of who we really are as humans. We are love, we are peaceful, we are one with nature and with each other. This world we live in goes against our true nature. This is why we are so depressed. Our true nature has a very difficult time being seen and heard and nurtured in this world. However, I am here to remind you that there are things you can do to change this reality. Drop the negativity from your life. Drop the people bringing you negativity. Do things for YOU, do more of the things that bring you joy and peace, no matter what anyone else thinks or feels about your choices. Find your truth! Heal your inner wounds by nurturing your soul. Listen to what your soul wants. I promise it will tell you if you choose to listen.

There is something beautiful happening

With all of that being said, I want to talk about the contrast happening in the world right now. As bad as we are told things are, (and we can see for ourselves the terrible things happening) there is something beautiful happening too. You have to change your perspective, and you have to learn self-care, self-love, self nurturing, and learn to listen to your soul’s voice. Once you begin doing these things, you will begin to see the beauty of what is really going on here.

The old paradigm

We are living in a world of contrast. We have the people who are living in the old paradigm, and clinging to it desperately, such as those who think Trump is a good person who cares about all people.(this is not going to be a political turn here)  There are those showing their true colors of being racist, hateful, and prejudice against anyone and everyone who is seemingly not like them, etc. They hide behind their claim to be good christians. (this is also not going to be a religious turn) There are those who believe they deserve better and deserve more than others. There are those who repeat negative and hateful words being spouted from horrendously hateful, manipulative, racist, narcissistic people, without using their own intelligence and inner voice to challenge this dangerous behavior.

Old paradigm creates self-hate

These are people stuck in what I call the old paradigm. The old paradigm is what creates self-hate, hate for others, hate for everything that doesn’t support negativity and dysfunction. In other words, this old way is the cause of so much suffering and pain for all. For those who do not live this way, it still affects us. This is because we have to constantly protect ourselves from this energy that goes completely against what it means to be a sacred being. We have this old paradigm happening on a grand scale, and we also have it happening on a smaller scale, such as in individual homes, relationships, schools, definitely churches, etc. All of the smaller scale “old paradigm” ways of being contribute to the larger scale dysfunction. Those who are fighting and clinging to “the old ways”, are those choosing the negative fearful ways; the dying part of our world. So, this is one side of the coin, so to speak. People are finally becoming aware of what is really happening here. Thank you to phone cameras, social media and the internet for helping us to wake up!

The attributes that make us TRULY human

The other side of the coin (the new paradigm) is beauty, peace, joy, unity, equality, connection, self-love. All of the attributes that make us who we TRULY are! I believe the people who want a world of peace, of unity, of equality, are the people who know deep down that the world we see right now, is not who we truly are as humans.  The world is showing us a beautiful contrast right now. It is painful, and it is very difficult to live in at times, but if we can focus on the outcome, which is pure beauty and love, we will get there. It is happening right now, I promise you. And we get to choose which way we want to be in this world. I can tell you this, the old way is dying. So many are depressed because who we are as humans has been overshadowed by greed, hate, injustice, violence, etc.

It is time to listen to YOUR voice

It is time to choose who you are. It is time to dig deeper. It is time to listen to YOUR voice, not those telling you what to think, how to think, when to think. Stop listening to those who say they KNOW what is right. YOU know what is right for you. If you are feeling out of balance in any way, go inside yourself. Turn off the outside voices, distractions etc. If you want to know truth, go inside yourself, learn meditation, learn to listen and honor your voice.

If you are curious about this contrast happening, if you are curious as to why we are being fed lies and hate, dig deeper. Research,(but not using mainstream news, or anything affiliated with the US government, because these sources are all based on lies to keep us under control so that only a small percentage of people thrive). Go beyond the made up history you were taught in school. You will be shocked at what you find.

Are you thriving?

If you are not thriving, there is something out of balance. Dig into it. I promise you, there is a whole “new”world waiting for you. Turn off the stuff that got you here, whether it be people, tv,news,etc. Change it up. Try a different way and see how it feels. Let go of what you thought you knew. Let go of others’ beliefs and behaviors. Take care of YOU. It is way past time! Remember, it is very difficult to give to others (in a way that honestly makes your soul happy) if you haven’t first given to yourself.

What do you need?

Some questions to ask yourself today….What do I need? What is beautiful in my life in this moment? What is my soul trying to tell me? What can I do right now to nurture myself? When is the last time I was out in nature (really in nature, not a walk in the neighborhood with cars and black top) without distractions? What message has my soul been trying to tell me but I haven’t been listening? Who brings negativity to my life? What one small thing can I do differently today that will add beauty to my life?

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The importance of doing your inner work

Written by Amie on June 23, 2015 – 12:21 pm -

Today I will show myself love, I will nurture myself

I feel so good today! Yesterday I went back and forth with someone I have been estranged from for over two years. Each time I responded, I asked myself why I was engaging with her toxic words. I had to really process why I was allowing myself to get sucked into her nonsense. Today I figured it out, and I feel a weight has lifted from me. I am ready to move on again, another layer of old emotional baggage released. It makes me want to celebrate! I am not celebrating the loss of this person in my life, because I do wish we could have a healthy relationship. It just isn’t possible right now. Instead, I’m celebrating the release of old emotional energy that was stuck in my body. Actually, I will be doing my own little ceremony later today with a ritual of releasing. Rituals are so helpful for me. Today I will show myself love, I will nurture myself. I will be there for me.

I can’t stop their suffering, only they can

So, what did I learn from this unhealthy exchange? Many things. First, I learned that, I have truly absorbed the message that it is okay, in fact it is my right, to be happy, EVEN IF other people are not happy, even if they are miserable. I have a right to happiness. I do not owe anybody a piece of my life by trying to help them be happy. If someone close to me is unhappy, it is NOT my responsibility to try to fix them. Yesterdays exchange really solidified to me, that I am free from this burden! I feel it in my body, which tells me that place in me that used to take responsibility for others’ happiness is no longer there! WOOHOO!!!Every person is responsible for their own life. I can support them in their journey, but I can’t stop their suffering. Only they can.

They would rather blame, shame, accuse, bully,and give their toxic garbage to others

The second thing I learned is that there are so many people who refuse to take responsibility for their own behaviors, actions, beliefs,thoughts, and really own their life. They would rather blame, shame, accuse, bully,and give their toxic garbage to others. They will do everything in their power to avoid feeling their own truth.They might even hide behind their misplaced belief that if they just stay “positive”, or if they only focus on helping others, then this will make it so they don’t have to do their own inner work of looking at the sadness, the disappointment, the anger that lies underneath. They may even believe that if they were to look at their true feelings,then others might accuse them of focusing on the past. This isn’t true. In order to be free and happy and authentically emotional, we can’t skip the step of healing the wounds that linger within us. Some have more than others, some less. We are who we are because of our life experiences. I understand why many people avoid feeling their truth, they avoid going deeper within themselves.It can be a scary process. But in order to be free emotionally, which affects all aspects of who we are, we must look inside ourselves, and feel what is there.It is helpful to have a therapist if you have deep or traumatic wounds. Plus, it is helpful to have someone to process feelings with.

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Some people feel threatened when they see another person getting healthy

I learned that some people are afraid of therapy, or they have a warped idea of what therapy really is. Mainly I learned that therapy is threatening for some people. It is scary for them to consider getting in touch with their true inner feelings. It is too scary for them to imagine sharing their inner feelings with someone, so instead they condemn people who choose therapy. They even go as far as trying to bully a person to convince them therapy is bad, the therapist only wants your money, the therapist doesn’t care about you, etc.(a side note is that I feel it is extremely important to interview therapists and find one that has done their own emotional work. Therapists and counselors can truly only help a person if they too, have done their own work) It is quite obvious to see the real feelings beneath this dysfunctional behavior. Some people feel threatened when they see another person getting healthy. They may feel threatened by the person going to therapy because when a person or people in a group start getting healthy, all other group members feel the change, and they don’t like it. The dysfunctional way that has always worked is shifting, so when some members are not willing to grow, they don’t want others to grow either. It felt really good to be able to separate my truth from theirs. Reading their hate filled words made it so obvious to me that they are truly suffering, and I am not responsible for their suffering!

It is not my job to try to convince someone to help themselves

This is the most important thing I learned; that it is not my job to try to convince someone to help themselves. If they ask for my help, of course I would support them and help them. This isn’t what I’m talking about. Over the last few years, I have been learning how to separate myself from others feelings. I am a person who is able to feel others’ emotions, and before I knew this about myself, I would take on their emotions as if they were mine. Now that I know this about myself, I do things to protect myself from others’ emotions. In the past I would always see the pain and suffering underneath toxic behavior, and then I would excuse this behavior by telling myself, “but they are a good person underneath.” This may be a true statement, most people are good people underneath their unhealthy behaviors. HOWEVER, this does not ever excuse people who treat others badly. EVER. So, what finally sunk in after all of these toxic exchanges yesterday, is that it is not my job to help this person see the goodness in herself, (she doesn’t want help seeing that). It is not my job to show her the underlying pain she is avoiding feeling when she is spewing mean and hateful words at me. It is not my job to overlook her behavior by saying, “but shes a good person.” It is her job. It is her responsibility. It is her life. She has to do the work in order to heal the pain inside herself. I am free.

It also gives them a ticket to be a jerk

I will not excuse bad behavior on the premise that I feel sorry for her because she is in a lot of emotional pain. I felt sorry for her a small bit up until last night. And then the weight lifted. I no longer feel sorry for her because by feeling sorry for her, this gives away some of my own inner power. It also gives her a ticket to be a jerk. If I feel sorry for a person, it means I am not holding them accountable for their unhealthy behavior towards me, which in turn usually means I excuse the bad behavior, thus keeping the dysfunctional cycle going. I see now without a doubt that each of us has to do our own inner processing, and that deep wounds do not give us a free ticket to be mean and nasty to other people. If we want healthy relationships, we do the work to heal our wounds, without injuring others in the process. We may injure others because we are not perfect, but when this happens we acknowledge it and we take full responsibility. Take responsibility for your life, for your behavior, for your words. Be vulnerable. FEEL.

SO, please remember, your job is YOU. You take care of your emotional health, and don’t allow others to spew their emotional pain onto you in the form of telling you all of the things they think are wrong with you. (oftentimes the words they spew at you are actually the true words of how they feel about themselves) In order to heal our wounds, we have to take care of ourselves, protect ourselves from toxic behavior. You have a right to protect yourself from unhealthy people, even if they are blood related. It is your life, you get to choose how to live it. Nobody else. YOU.

 

 

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