The beautiful contrast in the world right now

Written by Amie on September 17, 2016 – 3:01 pm -

What is happening?

Many are wondering what is happening to our world. The world as we know it has been slowing dying for a while now. Depending on who you listen to or what you read, there are many reasons for this. I am asking you to let go of the fear based negative energy out there, and instead, go within yourself. You have all of the answers and everything you need right inside you, every moment of every day. You just have to choose to listen. If you go inside and you hear negativity, or you hear scary scenarios, these are not your inner voice, these are conditioned beliefs/thoughts. These are the voices of the fear based dysfunctional beings in our midst right now. Remind yourself that this is not you. Let go of this kind of hurtful, unhelpful noise.

This world we live in goes against our true nature; Listen to what your soul wants

Many people are depressed and full of anxiety right now because they are listening and internalizing the negativity that is grasping and clawing, trying to stay relevant. Many are depressed because they are not listening to the voice within, the truth of who we really are as humans. We are love, we are peaceful, we are one with nature and with each other. This world we live in goes against our true nature. This is why we are so depressed. Our true nature has a very difficult time being seen and heard and nurtured in this world. However, I am here to remind you that there are things you can do to change this reality. Drop the negativity from your life. Drop the people bringing you negativity. Do things for YOU, do more of the things that bring you joy and peace, no matter what anyone else thinks or feels about your choices. Find your truth! Heal your inner wounds by nurturing your soul. Listen to what your soul wants. I promise it will tell you if you choose to listen.

There is something beautiful happening

With all of that being said, I want to talk about the contrast happening in the world right now. As bad as we are told things are, (and we can see for ourselves the terrible things happening) there is something beautiful happening too. You have to change your perspective, and you have to learn self-care, self-love, self nurturing, and learn to listen to your soul’s voice. Once you begin doing these things, you will begin to see the beauty of what is really going on here.

The old paradigm

We are living in a world of contrast. We have the people who are living in the old paradigm, and clinging to it desperately, such as those who think Trump is a good person who cares about all people.(this is not going to be a political turn here)  There are those showing their true colors of being racist, hateful, and prejudice against anyone and everyone who is seemingly not like them, etc. They hide behind their claim to be good christians. (this is also not going to be a religious turn) There are those who believe they deserve better and deserve more than others. There are those who repeat negative and hateful words being spouted from horrendously hateful, manipulative, racist, narcissistic people, without using their own intelligence and inner voice to challenge this dangerous behavior.

Old paradigm creates self-hate

These are people stuck in what I call the old paradigm. The old paradigm is what creates self-hate, hate for others, hate for everything that doesn’t support negativity and dysfunction. In other words, this old way is the cause of so much suffering and pain for all. For those who do not live this way, it still affects us. This is because we have to constantly protect ourselves from this energy that goes completely against what it means to be a sacred being. We have this old paradigm happening on a grand scale, and we also have it happening on a smaller scale, such as in individual homes, relationships, schools, definitely churches, etc. All of the smaller scale “old paradigm” ways of being contribute to the larger scale dysfunction. Those who are fighting and clinging to “the old ways”, are those choosing the negative fearful ways; the dying part of our world. So, this is one side of the coin, so to speak. People are finally becoming aware of what is really happening here. Thank you to phone cameras, social media and the internet for helping us to wake up!

The attributes that make us TRULY human

The other side of the coin (the new paradigm) is beauty, peace, joy, unity, equality, connection, self-love. All of the attributes that make us who we TRULY are! I believe the people who want a world of peace, of unity, of equality, are the people who know deep down that the world we see right now, is not who we truly are as humans.  The world is showing us a beautiful contrast right now. It is painful, and it is very difficult to live in at times, but if we can focus on the outcome, which is pure beauty and love, we will get there. It is happening right now, I promise you. And we get to choose which way we want to be in this world. I can tell you this, the old way is dying. So many are depressed because who we are as humans has been overshadowed by greed, hate, injustice, violence, etc.

It is time to listen to YOUR voice

It is time to choose who you are. It is time to dig deeper. It is time to listen to YOUR voice, not those telling you what to think, how to think, when to think. Stop listening to those who say they KNOW what is right. YOU know what is right for you. If you are feeling out of balance in any way, go inside yourself. Turn off the outside voices, distractions etc. If you want to know truth, go inside yourself, learn meditation, learn to listen and honor your voice.

If you are curious about this contrast happening, if you are curious as to why we are being fed lies and hate, dig deeper. Research,(but not using mainstream news, or anything affiliated with the US government, because these sources are all based on lies to keep us under control so that only a small percentage of people thrive). Go beyond the made up history you were taught in school. You will be shocked at what you find.

Are you thriving?

If you are not thriving, there is something out of balance. Dig into it. I promise you, there is a whole “new”world waiting for you. Turn off the stuff that got you here, whether it be people, tv,news,etc. Change it up. Try a different way and see how it feels. Let go of what you thought you knew. Let go of others’ beliefs and behaviors. Take care of YOU. It is way past time! Remember, it is very difficult to give to others (in a way that honestly makes your soul happy) if you haven’t first given to yourself.

What do you need?

Some questions to ask yourself today….What do I need? What is beautiful in my life in this moment? What is my soul trying to tell me? What can I do right now to nurture myself? When is the last time I was out in nature (really in nature, not a walk in the neighborhood with cars and black top) without distractions? What message has my soul been trying to tell me but I haven’t been listening? Who brings negativity to my life? What one small thing can I do differently today that will add beauty to my life?

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Nurturing yourself takes practice; learning self-love

Written by Amie on January 17, 2014 – 3:22 am -

You won’t have to try so hard

Learning self-love and self nurture takes practice. Loving and nurturing yourself doesn’t mean you have to forget everyone else in your life. It just means that you begin being kind to yourself internally and you begin taking your own needs and feelings into account. This is not done by “thinking positive” or by avoiding “negative” things. Yes, it helps to think positive and it helps to avoid negative situations whenever possible. However, usually when someone says, “think positive”, this means ignore your truth and pretend as though everything is great! This creates resentment, self-hate, and more dysfunction. The first step to creating a life that feels positive is to learn self-love and self-nurture. Once you begin loving yourself, you will automatically think positive and avoid negativity. You won’t have to try so hard. I don’t want to make it sound like learning to love yourself is simple and it happens overnight. Mostly, that doesn’t happen. It is a process of “unlearning” conditioned thoughts and beliefs, and then discovering your true thoughts and beliefs.

The root of self love

Once you begin discovering your true beliefs, things will start to fall into place. You will not want to be around people who tell you to ,”just think positive! Stop dwelling on the negative and maybe you won’t feel depressed”, or “do something fun for yourself and that might help you feel happy”. None of these work long term. The root of self love is pure acceptance of who you really are at your core. Pure acceptance of who you really are means you voice your truth, you own your experiences, you inquire into what your conditioned beliefs are and your question everything! Self-love happens gradually as you begin discovering and revealing your truth. Self-love will gradually happen as you begin uncovering the conditioned beliefs that are at the root of self-hate.

Self-hate is an accumulation of traumas, conditioned beliefs, unhealthy messages received both verbally and non-verbally, dysfunctional environments, lack of feeling safe, lack of being nurtured, not feeling free to be who you really are, not feeling safe to voice your needs, and many others possibilities depending on your situation. We are not born hating ourselves, we learn to hate ourselves because of the situations mentioned above. Learning self-love means undoing all of these learned dysfunctions.

How to begin the process of self- love?

To begin the process of learning to love yourself, you must first own your experience. You most definitely were not responsible for the negative situations that happened to you. However, this is YOUR life, and in order to learn to love yourself, you must own it. All of it. Is this easy? No! Does this mean you shouldn’t feel angry? Absolutely not! Anger is usually a huge part of the process of healing. Once you allow yourself to feel what is underneath the anger, you start getting to those things I mentioned above. You start questioning your beliefs that were given to you. You truly are allowed to feel your feelings! Depression and self hate will stay with you as long as you keep denying your truth. Its okay to feel angry! It is what you do with your anger that is important. Learn to get underneath the anger. What is really under the anger? Disappointment? Sadness? Fear? Journaling can be helpful in this situation. Owning your experience may include allowing yourself to become angry with those who wronged you. (This does not mean you have to confront them, unless you feel it would help your process. But most of the time, there are other ways to get through this without having to confront them. If the people who wronged you are still in a dysfunctional state, you may end up more hurt by speaking to them, because they are not going to be able to really “hear you”. ) Most people have great intentions, sometimes they are just not capable of giving the love others need. I have compassion for them, I really do. But, this absolutely does not mean I don’t have a right to heal by going through the process of being angry. Going through it is the only way to heal, in my opinion. Once you get through the anger, it can be released and you can move on.

your nurturing guidance

Once you own your experience, you can begin practicing other ways to love yourself. This will feel “weird” for awhile, but that is only because it is different and you aren’t used to it. Let it be “your little secret”. You don’t have to tell anyone what you are doing unless you trust that they will accept you exactly as you are. One very  important step in learning to love yourself is cultivating a loving, gentle voice inside you. This voice only speaks love and gentleness to you. It is your nurturing guidance. If you are upset, use this voice to comfort yourself. This takes practice! And it takes time and practice to even remember to do it! Other ways to practice self-love are to learn to meditate. This will connect you with the loving presence that is always available to you. Learn to sit in silence. Make a list of activities or things you have always loved but never allow yourself to make time to do. Do these things as often as possible, even when that conditioned voice inside is saying you don’t deserve to take time to do something you love. If the voice of self-hate pops in, tell it no thank you, I got this one! Journal every day. If you are afraid someone will find it, just promise yourself that after you write, you will burn it or throw it away, and then do that. This cultivates self-trust. Very important.

begin your journey to self-love

It is unfortunate that most people have to learn how to love themselves, but this is where we are, so there is less suffering if we accept it, and then own what we need to do in order to heal. It is possible to love yourself, I promise! It takes time, gentleness, patience, acceptance, and practice, practice, practice! The more you listen to what is going on in your thoughts and you question where they come from, the easier it will get for you to begin to change them. It helps me to sing (or scream sing!), dance, move, exercise…anything that will help me feel the sensation (emotions) in my body and release them. It helps to remind yourself that you are absolutely not a victim any longer! You are your own best friend, you are loved no matter what, always, and you are capable of undoing the conditioned junk that you learned. Nurturing yourself will become second nature once you become aware, and begin your journey to self-love.

 

I absolutely love this song right now! Let your truth be heard!!

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