Letting go of depression and opening to love

Written by Amie on November 2, 2011 – 1:11 am -

Being depressed is like being in prison

Wow! I was just watching Oprah’s new Life Class show, and I sobbed tears of joy throughout the whole thing. I am so touched right now. I feel so alive with hope and love, it is overwhelming. In a really hopeful beautiful way. Please keep reading, I won’t talk just about the show the whole post here. The show was about how animals touch our lives and how they give pure unconditional love. There is a program in some prisons called Puppies Behind Bars, and this is what touched me so deeply. Let’s see if I can put it into words. My body is pretty overwhelmed with feelings of love right now. When I watched these men taking care of the puppies, my stream of tears started. I could *feel* the weight of the world being lifted from them. These men felt unconditional love for the first time ever in their lives. It was painfully sad on some level, but so beautiful on a much deeper level. I felt a connection with these men. I realized how depression really imprisons a person. I was a prisoner of myself for years. I do realize that being incarcerated has so many other challenges. I don’t want it to sound as though I am minimizing this.

The minute you decide to pay attention to your thoughts and beliefs, and start *questioning* them is the minute the bars start to crumble 

The men in the show were physically imprisoned, or so it seems. I believe they are also emotionally, spiritually, and mentally imprisoned. This is exactly the same for people suffering with depression. Depression causes a person to be stuck on all levels. Depression is caused by the suppression of one’s authentic self. We become numb on all levels because we are stuck in the thoughts and beliefs we were conditioned to believe. Our authentic selves are fighting against what we have been taught. Each time our authentic truth tries to show itself, the messages we have been conditioned to believe convince us that this authentic self is wrong or bad. So, back to being stuck. It is a continuous fight. The more the thoughts and beliefs are believed, the stronger the “bars” become. BUT, these bars can be knocked down. The minute you decide to pay attention to your thoughts and beliefs, and start *questioning* them, is the minute the bars start to crumble. *You* are in control of your prison, I promise you.

 They have never known what it is like to be loved for exactly who they are. Their true selves have been conditioned out of them

Watching this show brought up so many emotions for me. Like I said earlier, I was sobbing while watching it. It hit me on such a deep level. I could see the humanness of each of these men. I could clearly see what I have always felt. My belief is that people end up in prison because they have never felt love, they have never been really *seen*, they have not been unconditionally loved, they have never known what it is like to be loved for exactly who they are. Their true selves have been conditioned out of them. They are acting out of fear and desperation. They have given up on the hope that they can ever feel better or ever be loved. They are convinced that they are not worth anything and that nobody cares about them. Therefore, they live to survive. In any way they can. Sound familiar? Anyone suffering from depression probably feels all of these things as well. I know I did.

This is the reason you feel self hatred. This is the reason you feel hopeless. This is the reason you feel worthless.

I understand that everyone has their own journey. I know from my own experience that we are exactly where we should be on our journey. I am in a place now that I know *for sure* that each of us has unconditional love inside us at all times. Depression can be healed when we make the decision to become aware of what we are telling ourselves. Every single person is capable of healing. I know this  deep inside. At the core of every one of us is love. By questioning and changing what we believe we get closer and closer to our authentic selves. Every time you allow yourself to notice your thoughts or beliefs, question them, and then acknowledge what you really believe or feel, you get closer to your truth. The truth is *you are loved* unconditionally, and that you deserve to be full of love. The only reason you don’t know this right now is because the messages you have been taught and told to believe are blocking this truth. This is the reason you feel self hatred. This is the reason you feel hopeless. This is the reason you feel worthless. These are *all* thoughts!!! They are NOT true, I promise you. they may feel true deep in your body. That is *only* because you have had them in there for a long time. That is the only reason!!! Stop believing your thoughts. Begin right now by noticing what you tell yourself. Once you start doing this, you will become more present in yourself, which will lead you to being strong enough to process some of your emotions. This leads to healing…..and ultimately to self-love. I don’t even know you, but I *know* for a fact that I love you.


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Feeling validated and really “seeing” each other

Written by Amie on November 1, 2011 – 2:39 am -

I really feel the part of them that is also a part of me

I find myself saying “I feel you” to many people lately. It just sort of started coming out. I thought I might get some strange looks or someone asking me what the heck I am talking about, but I haven’t gotten either one of those reactions. The reaction I have gotten is validation. The people I say this to feel validated. They know that I see them and I hear them. This is so incredibly important. When I am truly present with someone, they can *feel* it. There is no question as to whether or not they are being seen. How often I come across people who are looking me in the eyes, but have no idea what I said  to them. They may be too busy thinking about what they are going to say next. I try to be present with everyone I come into contact with. It feels so good deep inside when I really *connect* with a complete stranger. When I look them in the eyes and say thank you, it is the best feeling in the world! I haven’t told a complete stranger that I *feel* them, lol, because I don’t want to scare them off! When I say “I feel you” to someone, I mean I feel a soul connection with them; I really feel the part of them that is also a part of me.

 look them in the eyes and really see them

When we are able to really see each other, we are able to see that we are all mirrors for each other. When we see each other and validate each other, we are better able to see that we are all connected and we all have suffering and we all feel love. We are all the same, just in different physical forms with slightly different stories. Try “seeing” each person you come into contact with for the whole day. Each time you speak to someone, forget about what you are going to say and just look them in the eyes and really see them. Look deep into their eyes and connect with them. It feels so good!

I was in a very bad place for a very long time

I suffered very deeply from depression. I was in a very bad place for a very long time. Looking back now, I see that I did not feel seen or validated. I was feeling invisible a lot of the time. I felt as though I was just drifting through life, just getting by. Thankfully I had my kids to shower love on, so this helped me heal. I made sure to let them know they were both seen and heard. Through this process with them, I was able to see that I missed this part of my own childhood. It is another form of learning to ignore our authentic self. So many people are conditioned to turn off their truth. Therefore, they can not feel seen, heard, or validated. This creates depression because their truth is being repressed.

settle deep inside your heart

The more we stop to see others, the more we will be able to see ourselves. The more we validate someone else’s feelings, the more we can validate our own. The more we open our heart to others, the easier it is to open our heart to ourselves. Listen to your inner voice. It is there to show you the path to authenticity and love. Validate it by being gentle with yourself. Allow that gentleness to come in and settle deep inside your heart. You were born to feel love, it is there all the time. See it, hear it, nurture it, feel it, *know* it.



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