Let your emotions out, people!

Written by Amie on October 8, 2009 – 1:06 am -

The movie The Invention of Lying

I saw a movie tonight called The Invention Of  Lying. It was nothing like I thought it would be, and I am still trying to figure out exactly what I thought of it! I walked away scratching my head, but at the same time, it got my wheels spinning. The short of it was nobody knew how to lie. Until one day a man discovered lying. He was the only one who knew how to lie. Everybody believed every single thing  people said to them. Most of the people seemed depressed and lonely, which is another conversation in itself. One thing I thought about after the movie was how easy it is to believe everything that is said to us personally.  We are born not knowing how to lie, or to exaggerate the truth. Soon, we learn telling the truth doesn’t always get us a positive response, so lying begins. We start to believe what others tell us about ourselves, yet we learn to doubt the messages inside us, the ones telling us the truth about ourselves. The stories don’t match up, but yet we keep hearing the external messages so often we soon forget to listen to the internal connection we have.

Are you telling the truth?

The movie was a catalyst for pondering, no doubt. It also made me think about the people that are smiling saying everything is great, but really suffering in silence. There was a guy in the movie that was depressed and suicidal. Since he couldn’t lie, he just came right out and talked about it. This struck a chord with me because my brother did commit suicide. I knew that he was suffering, but had no idea how badly. This makes me wonder so many things. The biggest thing I wonder is why in the world are people taught that sharing their truth with others is somehow a bad thing?  We are taught that having any kind of emotions is really not OK. You do that in private, by yourself. Suffer in silence. Kids are sent to time out because they are showing emotion. Maybe in the form of a temper tantrum, but that is the only way they know how to express how frustrated they are! So from a young age, many people are taught that expressing their emotions is bad, and it also makes them weak. Expressing emotions is something that can be bothersome to others. I wonder how many people are walking around suffering? I can’t even imagine the amount.

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Let your emotions out people!

So, I am here to say, “let your emotions out people!!” I say this with a smile! Seriously, what do we have to lose? Fight those voices that are telling you something is wrong with you, or the voices telling you how lazy you are or the voices asking, “how could you do that”? I say tell those voices to go jump in a lake without a life jacket. Corny? Sure, but you have to have a sense of humor when you talk to the voices in your head, they are not always rational!   As nice as it is to  get gifts, I don’t want anymore dysfunctional gifts, thank you very much. So, here is something to remember, if someone tries to give you a negative message or belief, you can say thanks, but no thanks, even if you say it just to yourself.

Messages you were born with

Here are some of the messages that I want to be coursing through my mind, and ones I put there myself when I need to feel nurtured. At this point, I am beyond caring how this sounds! I know I can’t be the only one out there who needs to hear nurturing beliefs. When I was part of a women’s healing circle, we each came up with things we needed to hear. So, hopefully this will be a gift to you that you can take in and let in to your belief system. The thoughts we were born with that got drowned out. I am saying these to you even though I can’t see you, but I hope that you can feel them. Let them sink in to your cells. Make up your own. Write down things you really need to hear, and say them out loud to yourself.

The truth

You are perfect exactly as you are. I hear you. I see you. I believe you. Who you are is what matters most. I care about you. I respect you. I love you for who you are. I support you. This is just a start……what do you need to hear from the voices inside your head?

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Interviewing your deeper self

Written by Amie on October 6, 2009 – 1:31 am -

Question Number one is…

I want to share another process with you that I did early on in my healing, and I continue to do when I feel the need. It is a self interview to find out more about yourself. Sounds funny, I know. I was hesitant to do this process because I thought I knew myself. Well, come to find out, I had no idea who I really was and what I really like to do! Of course, there were a few things that I knew, but overall, I did not know myself very well at all! This is a process that works best if you can give yourself time to sit and ponder the questions, to let them seep in, so to speak, before really answering. I gave myself a few hours to read over the questions and to ponder my answers. This exercise will help you connect on a deeper level with yourself. It isn’t as useful if you just answer with the first thing that comes to your mind. I realized I was in the habit of answering without really thinking through how I felt on a deeper level. Sometimes parts of us get buried so deep, we may forget they ever existed. This exercise helps you remember those buried treasures!

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Here are some of the questions I use:

1. What is the one thing you love to do that you haven’t done in a very long time?

2. Was there something artistic you loved to do as a child? If so, what was it? Do you still do this activity?

3. What is your favorite color?

4. What did you want to be “when you grew up”?

5. Is there something in your life you do on a regular basis but you hate doing it?

6. If you could do anything you want to do, without money and failure being a worry, what would you do?

7. What experience deeply affected you but you never told anyone?

8. What is one trait about yourself you are proud of?

9. If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?

10. Where are you listed on your list of priorities? Are you on there at all?

Make your own list of questions

This is just a start. You can ask yourself any questions you want to. When I do this exercise, my questions are adjusted to reflect what is happening in my life at the time. The first few times I did this, I tried to skip over questions, or I would just answer ” don’t know”. Then I realized how valuable it is to check in with myself, and how seldom I did this. “Am I enjoying my life, am I happy with the way things are going, did I agree to something that I really didn’t want to do?”These are questions I was able to answer when I allowed myself the time to wait for my real answers. This exercise is another level to my awareness practice. For me, I had to check with myself often, so I could stay connected to myself. A “quick” self interview can be used during those busy times when you only have a few minutes. Checking in to see how you really feel about something is important when staying in the present moment. When we are in the present moment, we stay connected to our truth.

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